I haven't updated this blog in quite a while due to personal trials and tribulations, I've finally managed to make time for myself.
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My thoughts of the day led me to thinking about the importance of balance in life. Some people reading this may have noticed these few things:
1) People who cry at a regular basis (2-3 times a year)
2) People who nurture a good hobby/interest they are passionate about to relief stress
3) People who have good, reliable friends (or girlfriends/boyfriends) they can express all their happy and sad times
All 3 types of the people above are technically "healthy" emotionally and spiritually, they are able to regulate their emotions and balance out their "other side".
Yes, we all have our "other sides" within us. It's just about how well we attempt to understand it, that's all. I'm sure we can all agree that each and every human is potentially capable of the most violent and selfish acts if we choose to do so. That's our nature, it's unavoidable...
My solution to this is simple: Learn to Understand it and accept it as part of myself.
Okay....maybe that doesn't explain itself. I will explain the method I use on a daily basis:
Identifying the Warmonger and Peacemaker in You
It is my belief that there are 2 kinds of approach as good people in this world that attempts to achieve understandings. It is unquestionable that we have both of these things inside us...
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1) The Warmonger (W)
A "Warmonger" is a characteristic which is to actively seek out misunderstandings, conflict of interests and confront it (with words or with violence). The general idea is that a confrontation will ultimately achieve a compromise and both sides will respect each other's decisions, strength, values and principles. You'd notice that people who prefer this approach will thrive in challenges, confrontations and are absolutely thrilled when they encounter others with strong yet different perspectives in life, values, principles and even hobbies.
However, there is a slight gamble because arguments and "enemies" could potentially stay unresolved for variable amount of time (6months - 5 years) before a resolution is reached. This is due to the difference in amount of time each human needs for growth, maturity and learning experiences in life to understand one another...
Note: A mellowed out yet widely practiced method is used and encouraged in western cultures, children are taught from a young age to question/challenge other's ideas and thoughts and gain a mutual understanding about others as well as themselves in the process. In Asian culture, it is perceived to be destructive, insulting and intentional hostility to do so. However, times are changing...
2) The Peacemaker (P)
The "peacemaker" approach is very simple and easy - to do "Nothing". When others voice out their opinions, beliefs or principles which might probably conflict with your own, just give a gentle smile and give a nod of approval without any drastic actions taken. IF there are any quarrels or arguments between people you know, peacemaker approach will compel you to stay neutral and attempt to stop the arguments by making both parties stop arguing/confronting each other on-the-spot (to avoid any potential violent acts). Basically, a direct opposite to the Warmonger's approach to achieving understanding.
Peacemakers choose to avoid and avert arguments, quarrels and fighting whenever possible. The main objective is to achieve compromise and understandings through words, discussions and talks alone. Very much encouraged in small matters and trivial matters, the problem arises when peacemaker approach is used in larger problems which require a direct confrontation.
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We will end up using both approaches in our daily life when socializing and meeting new people outside in urban society. From what I see (here in Malaysia), the general population are pretty much 10% (W)/90% (P). However, it isn't quite balanced and will result in horrible outcomes. To maintain good health emotionally and spiritually, we should manage and "attempt" to understand our own thoughts and behaviors as well as others. The ideal (yet achievable) situation would be:
A - 40% (W) & 60%(P)
B - 60% (P) & 40 (W)
Consequences of Lacking Balance
There are dire consequences when we cannot regulate our emotions and behavior (Occasionally) by confiding to a good friend or family member in our everyday life.
- Warmonger-dominant people will suffer emotional breakdowns and wallow in self-pity for their inability to achieve peaceful resolutions. This will happen because the man/woman in question actually has a side of them which also wants to seek peace but is in deep conflict and denial about it.
- Peacemaker-dominant people will snap, they succumb to the raw emotions of Wrath, Envy, Lust and end up hurting themselves as well as others around them. This happens due to the constant bottling and resisting the basic human urge to express themselves openly.
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PS: I will assert that these are all personaly opinions which are based on observations, experiences and heart-to-heart talks with people I've encountered (Age 18-45) throughout my life. I hope that this article will help somebody out there gain a better understanding of themselves and others around him/her. Thank You.
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